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Could you be guilty of parental alienation?

Many family courts are beginning to recognize Parental Alienation as a problem in divorced families. The definition of PA is “any constellation of behaviors, whether conscious or unconscious, that could evoke a disturbance in the relationship between a child and the other parent.” In some cases, custody has been transferred to the noncustodial parent, who is typically the victim of alienation. Although other experts deny PA because it is not recognized as a true psychological condition, the fact remains that if you attempt to disrupt the relationship between the other parent and your child, it could be used against you in court. 

The New Jersey chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers put together a list of possible symptoms and types of behavior which are common in cases of parental alienation: 

  • Blaming the other parent for the marriage breakup, financial situation or having a new boy- or girlfriend to the child.
  • Refusing to be flexible with parenting time to accommodate the child’s schedule.
  • Assuming the other parent will be abusive towards the child.
  • Using the child to spy on the other parent to gain information.
  • Asking the child about the other parent’s personal life.
  • Breaking promises to the child.
  • Eavesdropping on the child’s conversations with the other parent on the phone, Skype or through text.
  • Asking the child to choose a favorite parent.
  • Not giving the other parent access to the child’s school or medical records. 

How will my divorce affect my social security eligibility?

Finances and the ability to support oneself in the future are some of the top concerns people have when their marriage comes to an end. If you are going through a divorce in Mount Holly and are close to retirement age, you may be wondering about how your split will affect your ability to collect social security benefits. Here is what you need to know.

According to the Social Security Administration, a lot will depend on who was the bigger earner throughout their lifetime and will be eligible for the higher benefit amount. If your spouse was the major income earner and you have very little work history, you will be eligible to collect benefits based on your ex’s income history if your marriage lasted for a minimum of 10 years. Upon reaching full retirement age, you can collect one-half of what your ex’s full amount would be.

A woman can be a husband, Tennessee judge finds

What constitutes a family in New Jersey these days is often very different than what was considered traditional in times past. Laws have not necessarily been updated to reflect that and it often falls to the courts to interpret and make sense of the statutes that are on the books. When it comes to the issue of who is entitled to parental rights, things can sometimes take a controversial turn.

A judge in Tennessee recently ruled that a woman could be considered a “husband.” A married same-sex couple became parents through artificial insemination. While Tennessee does have laws granting rights to non-biological parents in artificial insemination cases, the statutes use the term “husband.” Ultimately, the judge determined that word should be interpreted as neutral in this case and that the non-biological parent had the rights of a husband even though she was a woman.

Why is the risk of divorce greater for second marriages?

Many people whose first Mount Holly marriage ends in divorce choose to forego walking down the aisle a second time. However, others have no hesitation about taking the plunge again. If a second, or third, marriage is on your horizon, here are some reasons why subsequent marriages have a higher risk of divorce than first marriages.

Anyone who has been in a committed relationship can attest to the fact that it can be hard work. If your relationship with your ex had problems that you could not get past, it can be dangerous to assume that you will not also encounter problems in your next relationships, advises the Huffington Post. Some of the issues may be the same and some may be entirely different. Chances are, if you had trouble working through difficulties in your first marriage, it may also be a problematic the second time around.

Divorcing when older comes with unique financial considerations

The decision to divorce in Mount Holly can come at any age and can happen for a myriad of reasons. While some may think it odd that a couple would choose to split up after decades of marriage, this phenomenon, sometimes called “gray divorce,” is becoming more common. In fact, according to Yahoo, over the last 25 years, the number of people over the age of 50 who have divorced has doubled.

However, when people are that stage of life, their financial priorities may be very different than someone who gets divorced at a younger age. For one, people in their 50’s and 60’s are probably thinking about retirement. They have been planning and saving jointly but post-divorce, may only be left with half of what they were anticipating.

Paying child support when your child is gifted

When a couple divorces in Mount Holly, New Jersey, the court will generally decide on matters such as child custody and child support. How much a parent who pays child support is on the hook for will depend largely on the individual situation and the income of both parents. That amount usually takes into consideration any activities that the child participates in. However, parents of kids who are particularly gifted or talented at a particular sport or art may find themselves paying more to support their child’s endeavors.

As the Huffington Post points out, pursuing an athletic dream can be very expensive. Costs for equipment, travel and coaching can all add up very quickly. One parent may then look to the other to contribute additional child support in order to be able to afford the things their driven kid requires.

3 ways to handle a joint mortgage after divorce

The process of splitting your life is difficult. Divorce means dividing assets, time with children if you have them and even friends you gained as a couple. One of the more important long-term aspects of divorce is how you handle your mortgage.

If the names of both spouses are on the loan, what should you do to prevent being saddled with debt that is not yours in the future?

Tips for co-parenting after a divorce

Getting divorced in Mount Holly can be a difficult time. When a couple has children together, they often have the added challenge of becoming a two-household family. However, parenting together while living apart is possible if both parties are willing to but in the extra effort.

CNN recently reported on a couple that still reunites every year to take a family photo with their son despite no longer being married and living on opposite sides of the country. While not every couple may achieve that level of understanding, the fact that they both are putting their child first is a good example to follow when co-parenting with an ex.

What happens to credit card debt in a divorce?

When you go through a divorce in New Jersey, you and your spouse will likely divide your assets in a way that is equitable to both parties. However, if one or both of you has debts at the time of your split, those may also need to be divided up. Here is what you should know about how credit card debt may be divided in a divorce.

As the Huffington Post points out, who is responsible for paying off the credit card will largely depend on who the debt belonged to. If your spouse has a credit that is solely in his or her own name, then that debt belongs to them unless you both agree to handle it differently as part of your divorce settlement.

Victims of domestic violence do not fit a certain mold

Dealing with domestic violence in Mount Holly is never easy. Sometimes taking legal action against an abusive partner becomes necessary. Even after the abuse ends, victims are often left dealing with the psychological effects and wondering if they are somehow to blame.

However, domestic abuse does not only happen to one type of person. Victims can come from any background. A person’s socioeconomic status, age or race cannot predict whether he or she will suffer abuse at the hands of a loved one. Globally, one in seven men have been the victim of abuse, as has one in four women.